There is so much rancor in the world right now. So much division. So much anger and hostility.
And it’s not just “out there.” It shows up at work. It shows up in our families. It even shows up at our own dinner tables.
When the temperature rises, it’s easy to retreat. To hunker down in our corners. To surround ourselves with people who see the world exactly as we do. It feels safer that way.
But safer doesn’t always mean better.
One of the things I loved most about law school was that we could disagree—passionately. We could argue cases, precedents, and principles all day long. And then, when classes ended, we could head out together for pizza and beer. The debates didn’t make anyone wrong or bad. We still cared for one another. We still laughed and enjoyed each other’s company.
That experience has stayed with me. It taught me something powerful. Disagreement is not the same as division. Debate is not the same as disdain. We don’t have to demonize the people who see things differently.
Not all of us see the world in the same way. And that’s okay. In fact, it’s better that way. Diversity of thought, of background, of experience—it’s what allows us to grow. It’s what sparks creativity. It’s what keeps us from getting stuck in echo chambers where all we hear is the sound of our own voices bouncing back at us.
But for that growth to happen, we need to choose curiosity.
Curiosity shifts the conversation. It takes us from “You’re wrong” to “Help me understand.” It allows us to ask questions instead of firing back answers. It helps us see the human being across from us, rather than the “enemy” we’ve created in our minds.
Curiosity softens us. It invites connection.
It doesn’t mean we’ll always agree. It doesn’t mean we’ll suddenly see eye-to-eye on politics, or faith, or how best to run a business. But it means we’ll stay open. We’ll stay engaged. And when we do that, we keep alive the possibility of respect—and maybe even relationship.
The world doesn’t need more people retreating into their corners. The world needs people willing to sit at the same table, willing to listen, willing to stay curious.
Because in the end, we’re in this together. We share this world. We share our workplaces, our communities, our families. And we’ll only thrive if we can learn to live together—not as clones of one another, but as fellow travelers who choose to honor the dignity of every person we encounter.
So the next time you find yourself ready to shut down, to turn away, to dig in your heels—pause. Ask a question. Listen to the answer.
Stay curious.
