Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.
How are you today?
I hope you’ve woken up rested, refreshed and satisfied after your Christmas celebrations.
But if, instead, you’re feeling dazed and depleted and maybe a little bit empty, you are not alone.
The holidays are a huge source of stress; a seemingly never-ending torrent of buying and wrapping and eating and drinking and binging and networking and connecting and partying; with concomitant unceasing demands and obligations and expectations.
Likely you’ve spent the last several weeks hustling around fulfilling everyone else’s wants. Tending to the needs of others.
Maybe you think you’re done.
Except that you’re not.
It’s today. Another day. And while you can, perhaps, distract yourself for a little while longer, ringing in the New Year, the day is coming soon when you will face the expanse – or the abyss – of the year ahead.
So today’s question is not about all those other folks you’ve been attending to. It’s about you.
What do you want?
What do you really want?
Not what you think you should want; or what you think you’re expected to want. Not what your father wanted; or what you’re mother thought would be right. Not what your partner or boyfriend or girlfriend or neighbors want. Not what your clients want. Not what some well-intentioned teacher or guidance counselor wanted for you.
Rather, what is it you want ? For yourself? Right here? Right now?
The folks who read this blog are, by their very nature, givers. The challenge for givers is receiving. The challenge for givers is getting quiet enough to listen to the still small voice that speaks to us of our heart’s desires. The challenge for givers is giving to ourselves what it is we really, really want.
Because, we presume that what we want is bad. Or selfish. Or self-centered.
Or more frequently, we forget what we wanted. We become numb to our heart’s desire.
So on the threshold of a new year, I have a challenge for you: Set aside some time just for you; and spend some time asking yourself (and perhaps journaling about) these questions:
- If I could make my life any way I wanted it, what would my ‘perfect’ day look like? My ‘perfect’ week? What time would I get up? What would I wear? Who would I spend my time with? What work would I do? What projects would I pursue? What travels would I take? What would my ‘perfect’ life look like?
- If this were my very last year on earth, what would I do? Would I stay in the same relationship; would I keep the same job; would I hang out with the same people; would I go the same places; would I do things the way I’m doing them right now?
- If money were no object, if I won the $30 million dollar Powerball, what would I do? After I bought all the toys I wanted, where would I go; who would I go with; where would I spend my time; what experiences would I want to create; what legacy would I want to leave?
Because here’s what’s true: Those whispers that are in our hearts, those dreams that we have, those projects we want to create, those places we want to go, the empires we want to build, the impact we want to make… they’re not random musings; they’re not accidents. They are the call of our Spirit, the Divine within us, showing us – telling us – the way.
So think. Write. Draw. Free flow. Tear down the boundaries. No limitations. Let your imagination run wild.
And then get busy. Because, that’s what you want. That’s what you really want.
That’s your heart’s desire.