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Be A Control Freak

by Walt | Sep 12, 2013 | Success | 5 Comments

OK, people, it’s done.Summer’s over. The vacation’s behind you. No more lazy lunches. No more casual Fridays.It’s time to put away the Dockers… and the swimmies. It’s time to get back to it.September’s here. Time to get busy; time to get serious.No more leisure, no more playtime.It’s time for work.Uhhh, wait a minute: I object. I don’t want to give up playtime!It is a busy time of year. But perhaps we can take some of summer with us?In summer, it seems, time is more expansive; the rules more flexible; the boundaries softer.And then September comes and – maybe it’s a holdover from going back to school – it seems like the time for fun is over.We move back into our busy lives, our schedules chock full, shuttling around the kids, out to soccer games and swim practices, with evening meetings, volunteer activities and board commitments.Many of my coaching clients feel like they’re moving back into the forest fire armed only with their squirt guns; their lives turned into an out-of-control carnival game of whack-a-mole. Reacting endlessly, and breathlessly, to the urgent.Never really getting to what is really, truly the important in their lives.And summer slips silently into the rear view mirror with perhaps some vague hope for respite and reprieve on some distant unencumbered weekend… or maybe in February on that “vacation… .”There is a different way.But it requires that you become a control freak.That’s right, a control freak: someone who takes control of their lives!No one else is gonna do it for you. You’ve gotta do it for yourself.And this means that you need a bit of courage and audacity.I know. I live it too. Bombarded by unceasing demands and expectations in every area of our lives. Inundated by inputs. Juggling multiple modalities of communication. Over committed and suffused with the anxiety of dropping the ball.But here’s the truth: the in-box will always be full. None of us will ever get it all done. If you died tomorrow, you’d be replaced.So why not pay attention to what truly matters?People ask me how it is that I take so much time away traveling and adventuring. The answer: it’s a choice.Last year, I took 13 weeks off. There were no disasters. No one missed me. The world went on.And, damn, it was fun.So here are some practices to consider before September gets too crazy:

Decide what really, really matters to you. Spend time on that. Get rid of the rest.
Get really good at saying no; if you find yourself saying you “should” do something, you probably shouldn’t.
Carve out time for yourself – every single day. No one else is going to do it for you.
Get up an hour early and enjoy the quiet. Use it to read and write and meditate and create.
Plan your weeks; and plan each day; actually schedule in the time for the things that matter most to you.
Turn off the TV at night and focus on the life you really want.

Here’s the scoop: at the end of our lives, no one is going to wish they spent more time in the office, billed more hours, sold more product, sat on more boards, went to more PTO meetings, or volunteered for more committees. It won’t matter whether you went to one more network group, whether your Facebook status was up to date, or whether you were well LinkedIn. What will matter will be the experiences you have had, the love you have shared, the lives you have touched.

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What will matter will be whether you showed up in each and every moment to know the fullness and the joy of your life.What will matter is whether you have lived without regret.For that to happen, you’ll need to become a control freak._____________________________________p.s. If you’re working on creating the work and the life you love, and would like some support and coaching, consider booking a complimentary breakthrough Strategy Session with me. We’ll get laser focused on you and figure out exactly what needs to happen to get you the results you want. Email me: [email protected]This is an encore of a piece first published on September 6, 2012.

To The Beach

by Walt | Sep 5, 2013 | Success | 1 Comment

At some point in our evolutionary history, our forebears crawled up out of the sea onto the beach into the sunlight and the air.

On June 6, 1944, the Allied Forces stormed the beaches at Normandy to effect a turning point in the Second World War.

The beachhead: a critical component of success. In evolution, in battle, in business and in life.

As a coach, I collaborate often with folks who want – and need – to storm the beach.

Making change, effecting transformation, is difficult, exhausting work. It’s not for the feint of heart.

It takes courage and audacity.

But even more than that, it takes tenacity.

It takes stick-to-it-ness.

A willingness to do whatever it takes. Unfailing effort… and resolve.

And faith too.

Because, so often, especially in the early going, you can’t see your progress. You feel as if you’re stuck in the surf, drowning; it feels like the bullets are flying everywhere. It feels chaotic and discouraging; stressful and depressing.

Our biggest breakthroughs, of course – our most worthy objectives – the deepest expressions of who we are – lay just outside our comfort zones… and it’s comfortable inside our comfort zones… who really wants to venture out… when there’s so much danger … and uncertainty. Who really wants to climb out of that boat into that icy water and swim for the shore when the risk of failure is so high.

And it’s easy at the outset to give up, to turn back, to play it safe.

It’s critical, then, to your success to brave the battle, to stay the course, even when the challenges are daunting and the outlook bleak, even when your energy… and your faith begin to flag. It’s essential to fight the waves and dodge the bullets and defy the odds… to finally stand upon that beach.

Because, what’s interesting is, that once you’ve gotten up on the beach, once you’ve established a beachhead, it all changes up.

On the beach, for the first time, you dig in, get some footing, set a foundation, build some momentum. Suddenly, it feels like you’ve established a presence and made some progress.

You see – at last – the first fruits of all your hard work.

From the beach, you can finally see the light, finally see the possibilities.

From the beach, you’ve seen the evidence of the effort; you can feel the anticipation; your confidence builds; you know there’s hope.

You know in that moment that you can – and will – succeed.

Time and again I’ve seen the joy in our client’s eyes when they’ve gotten to this place.

Whatever it takes, whatever it takes: Get to the beach.

Sit There. Do Nothing.

by Walt | Aug 29, 2013 | Success | 0 Comments

What do the Seattle Seahawk players and the managers at Aetna Health Insurance have in common with the Dalai Lama?

They meditate.

Really.

They sit on cushions, close their eyes and go “Om.”

Why, you might ask, would burly football players and corporate execs bother?

Because they’ve discovered the power of mindfulness.

This is not some new fad. The ideas of meditation and mindfulness have been around since before the time of Siddhārtha Gautama, Shakyamuni a/k/a the Buddha, more than 500 years before the birth of Christ. What is new is finally a mainstream recognition that these ancient principles have a powerful impact on the way we live every day of our lives… and the way we conduct our businesses.

Culturally, we’re told that in order to get ahead, we need to work longer and harder and faster; we’re taught that busy is good; that faster is stronger; and that the more that we can do and be and accomplish, the more successful we will be. (All of which is bullshit.)

Part of this, of course, has come as a ‘gift’ of the technological revolution. With computers and laptops and tablets, we are (we think) capable of productivity beyond anything the Buddha could have comprehended. But here’s the rub: We’re not built like computers; we don’t have the capacity to be ‘always on;’ and despite vehement beliefs to the contrary, we can’t focus on multiple things at the same time. We just can’t.

We work in pulses. Most of us are not capable really of more than 5 high-quality hours of work a day on any given objective. We are scientifically incapable of multi-tasking. And we need our sleep.

And, in order to be truly successful, we need to be mindful; we need to slow down and get clear.

Meditation and mindfulness have been shown, though countless peer-reviewed studies, to dramatically improve:

➢ Cognition
➢ Attention
➢ Focus
➢ Memory
➢ Emotional wellness, and
➢ Physical health.

And at the same time, to significantly decrease:

➢ Stress
➢ Symptoms of depression, and
➢ The sense of always being scattered and distracted.

All of which, of course, leads to deeper presence, keener engagement, enhanced mastery, … and yes, greater productivity and profit.

Now, I can teach you all of the intricacies of meditation and mindfulness… I have been a Vipassana practitioner for 20 years… and the benefits have been staggering. But intricacies are unnecessary to get started. All you need to do is step back, step out… and get quiet. A regular 5 to 10 minutes a day can shift up your entire game.

Close your eyes and breath. It’s that simple.

So convinced of the compelling science and the significant benefits, Mark Bertolini, Aetna’s chief executive, incorporated mindfulness and meditation into his corporate wellness program. And the Seattle Seahawks, to improve the emotional health of their players, brought in Pete Carroll to teach them to get quiet and focus their attention.

The Dalai Lama, of course, had an earlier heads up on all of this.

So whadda think? This is a pretty simple success strategy. If doing less would get you more, wouldn’t it be worth a try?

Stop, Drop & Roll

by Walt | Aug 22, 2013 | Success | 2 Comments

Sometimes the optimal success principle, the very best action strategy, is to take no action. Do nothing.

I had a coaching client whose business was collapsing around him. His knee-jerk reaction was to borrow more money, hire some high-paid consultants, and staff-up with personnel. All of which accelerated his calamitous decline.

My advice: Stop. Don’t move. Get clear.

Respond. Don’t react.

We tell our kids when they’re young that if they get lost, they should “stay put,” don’t wander, “hug a tree.” That wandering just might get them more lost.

The same is true in business and in life. Wandering around without a clear sense of direction will get you lost.

Decisions made and actions taken in the face of panic and fear are almost always faulty.

A buddy of mine tells an interesting story: He was being trained for special ops in the military. One of the final exercises, which he had to ‘pass,’ was to survive for 5 days on an island while the enemy hunted for him. Off the boat, he scrambled up the beach and into the woods while being shot at. So frightened, all he could think of doing was to dig himself a hole, crawl in, and cover himself with dirt and leaves. His comrades, of course, bounded off, utilizing all of their newly acquired tools, techniques and strategies. My friend lay quietly as the enemy passed by.

In the end, my buddy was one of the very few who survived.

Because he stopped; because he did nothing.

Stopping is an action strategy, a success principle. Often the most powerful one you can employ.

Action without clarity, without vision is an invitation for disaster, or, if you’re lucky, simply a waste.

Stop. Drop. Roll yourself into a quiet place.

And get clear.

Time Management For Losers

by Walt | Aug 15, 2013 | Success | 0 Comments

A guest post this week from the inestimable Ann Sheybani…

A long time ago, when I was selling photo copiers for a living, I met an older woman who gave me a piece of advice I will never forget.

“Darling,” she said, smoothing back her hair with steady hands, “there’s a time and a place for everything. You can’t do it all at once, no matter what they say.”

My husband at that time was working at the University of Connecticut as a temporary professor. One of the perks as his spouse was the ability to take free classes, which I thought I should avail myself of. I was feeling a thousand years behind the curve because I’d just returned from living in Iran, and I was beginning all over again. I was banging on doors from 9 to 5 in a 70-mile territory; I had two small children at home, a marriage on the rocks; and I was convinced that I should drive an hour each way, maybe three times a week, to further educate myself.

So, there I was at a print shop, waiting for my sales appointment, when I ran into the elegant older woman who gave me that advice, who told me I should give myself a break and forget the classes until my kids were older.

What she’d done after her children had grown made her words memorable. She and her husband sold their house, moved to Switzerland, and studied together at the Carl Jung Institute. At 60, they moved back to the U.S. and opened a booming psychiatry practice. In each of the stages of her life, including the one as a Mom and housewife, she’d felt happy and fulfilled.

I think our generation struggles so with the Super Woman mindset: This notion that we should be able to do it all, have it all, be it all, then balance it all, NOW, NOW, NOW, in order to be enough.

We consider ourselves ~~fucking losers~~ lazy if our house isn’t spotless. If our children aren’t adorably talented, our career impressive, our abs six-pack-alicious, our sex-life worthy of Penthouse. If we don’t have a couple of side businesses, a book on the bestseller list, and a circle of hilarious friends who meet for brunch on Sunday mornings wearing Gucci.

It’s why we keep looking for THAT ONE time management secret that will help us pack it all in.

I believe we can have it all, just not all at once.

This coming from someone who operates a couple of businesses, climbs big mountains, runs ultra-marathons, writes, speaks, coaches, and travels the world like it’s my job.

We’re human beings AND there are only 24 hours in a day. Something has got to give. Let me be more precise: Something WILL give.

I’m highly suspect of people who claim to have all aspects of their life totally under control. I tend to chalk up much of that bullshit to spin. I wonder how they managed to cover up their stint in rehab, or their gruesome 3^rd divorce, or the fact that their kids haven’t spoken to them since 1996, that sort of thing. But that’s probably just me being bitter.

I do believe that you can have a lot more, and that there are some really valuable tricks of the trade when it comes to having it all—secrets that are worth bending an ear for: drawing boundaries, saying no, asking for help, delegating, repurposing, drop kicking perfectionism, and so on, and so forth. (I mean, I coach on this topic.)

But I really think the only way to forgive ourselves for not winning the Master of the Universe Award is to set some priorities, priorities based on our highest values, and let the other stuff go to hell, at least for the time being.

Otherwise you walk around in ratty pajamas all day feeling totally defeated, and hopeless, which is so not how you want to do this gig.

My kids are grown and out of the house. I’ve done the heavy lifting there. And it’s true, what that wonderful stranger said, I have time, now, to pursue all those things I was chomping on the bit to do. All those things that would have felt unbelievably overwhelming way back when.

I still have to choose, EVERY SINGLE DAY, what I’m going to focus my time and attention on, and what will get waaayyyyy short shrift. So, sorry, if you’re looking for balance, it ain’t here.

Today I’m writing, and my house looks like looters have ransacked it.
I’ve been focusing on building a business or two, and my memoir is gathering dust in the bottom drawer.
I bought a house in Ireland, and my marathon training is spotty at best.
I’ve conducted some great on-line writing courses, and my friends can’t remember the color of my hair.

But that’s OK. Because I know that the in-basket is always full, and that there’s a season for everything.

And that it’s not a crime to use cliches. Thank God.

This is my garage. It needs help.